One of my older sister's told me there should be a law where no one is allowed to die at holiday time. My mother-in-law lost her battle against uterine cancer on Wednesday, December 5th, 2007, between 9:30pm-10:00pm. She had just moved from the hospital to a nursing home. She and her husband agreed this was just temporary until she regained her strength.
I think she subconsciously knew it was time to go because she insisted on going to the nursing home instead of her home. If she had gone to her home they would have had to bring a hospital type bed into the home, etc.
When we were down for the family get together Allison thought Grandma was still sick. I told her that Grandma went to heaven. "Why?" she asked. I told her that she went to be with Jesus. "Why?" I told her Jesus wanted Grandma to be with him now.
Matt is doing okay. I think Art is having a more difficult time. He has to go through all her things - clothes, projects she was working on (mini scrapbooks, quilt), bathroom stuff (wigs, meds, make-up). I can't even imagine.
I think I would be a wreck if I wasn't on my happy pill.
Thanks for all your support!
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I was thinking the same thing about her knowing it was her time and not wanting to go home.
As far as having a law about people dying during the holidays, I'm not sure how much of a difference it would make. Lilikoi is having a really rough time right now, and her dad passed away in May. The holidays are tough for a lot of reasons.
But I do have empathy for Matt/Art and the family for having to deal with the details during this time of year.
I totally agree that she knew her time was near, and preferred for Art's sake to be in the nursing home. God Bless all of you this holiday season. I know first hand how it feels to loose someone close during the holidays. There is nothing you can do or anyone can say to make it feel better. Please know that I feel your pain, but also know that she is still with you, always, she would want you to try to enjoy your holidays.
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