What would you do?
It's your birthday weekend.
Spend the weekend with your favorite sisters?
Spend the weekend with your favorite husband and children?
What would you do?
You already have a dog.
Buy two of your favorite dogs (1 1/2 and 2 yrs old) that are for sale?
Buy a puppy of these favorite dogs that are for sale?
What would you do?
You have a bitter mother-in-law sick with cancer.
Send good thoughts, emails, and cards?
Send a book about deadly emotions having toxic effects on the body?
3 comments:
Okay, these are tough.
1) I'm not answering it since I have a vested interest in your decision.
2) while a puppy would be really fun, getting one of the parents would be easier. They're already trained and less likely to be adopted by someone else. As for BOTH parents, I,I,I.
3) the toxic book might be something she needs to see but it might not be the best gift FROM YOU since you already have a hit-and-miss relationship. Maybe send it anonymously? ;)
1) Husband and kids, no brainer.
2) Why exactly do you need another dog? I would think two kids, a husband, and a dog already would be quite enough work. Do you have time to spend with the second dog? If you did get a puppy, will you be home most of the time to train it and spend time with it? Just leaving it outside all the time would be so sad.
3) She really needs support. Think about it: She's dying. Give her a break here. She's going through all sorts of things herself: anger, frustration, sadness, depression (which is different from sadness), all of which she needs an outlet for. If she is choosing you or her family to be that outlet, you should be feeling proud and honored that she chose you for her last dying days to give you her heart. It is a gift, and you should cherish it. Think of her needs, not yours. Just listen, lend support when she needs it, or don't say anything. Soemtimes just letting her say what she wants or be the way she needs to be is enough. Put yourself in her shoes. Would you be a happy person if you had a life-threatening mass eating at your internal organs, only time telling how much you really have left? I think not. Let her be, and be there for her, that's waht she needs the most right now. Don't take the things she says so personally, she doesn't really mean them. She needs you. She doesn't need a condescending book to tell her she's dying, she already knows that, this is why she is being this way. The book would only make her feel even worse, no matter where or who it comes from.
Thanks, Anonymous, for your comments on the third dilemma. You're right in that I am being selfish. I just hate to see her continue to be so bitter towards a person (not me thank goodness) when she should try to be positive during this time.
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